Middle school gossip. It’s not a big deal but it is still going around and still putting people down. Shouldn’t we be too mature for this type of stuff? Aren’t we a community?
When GFS students were asked about middle school gossip and their thoughts, most of them replied with something like: “Gossip is a mean way of showing someone’s jealousy by putting words in their mouth and making up rumors about them.” I asked Sarah L. which grade has the most gossip and she answered with this: “I think eighth grade because they know each other better and have more defined opinions, but it really depends on the person.” This is an interesting answer, but others do think differently because they think that 8th grade should be too mature for gossip. One student said that sixth grade would have the most “because they are new to middle school and think they have more power, but are still the least mature for middle school.”
Middle school gossip is different from lower school gossip. In lower school you don’t often hear about first, second, third, or fourth graders really “gossiping.” All they’re talking about is their crushes. But fifth grade surprisingly is a big jump in terms of the way kids feel about other people. One middle school student said, “Since [fifth graders] are the top of lower school going onto middle school, they know that they are the bosses. [Whereas] in sixth grade we realize that we are too mature, but we still have some need to make ourselves feel better or get more attention by gossiping.”
Sometimes things we say come out a bit harsh, but we all have our different reasons why we do this. Most of the time it’s because we are in the moment, mad a someone, jealous, or wanting to let people know that we know people’s secrets and getting the person we are telling all excited.